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Inner Child Healing, Part 1

Hello Friends!

In this article, we shall learn about the different tools and techniques of inner child healing to help us in this beautiful journey of self-love! We are every age we have ever been. This means we are carrying the wisdom of our oldest self and the innocence of our child self together.

A large portion of our experiences and belief systems is formed by conversations we listen to from our parents and then replay that in our mind and heart! We have not been aware when we were children, that this is so important! These conversations, positive or negative, which we overheard during our childhood, form such strong roots within ourselves and shape our thinking patterns and self-esteem. So, this process involves being our own parents and talking to our inner child, giving it love, respect and making it feel worthy. 

Whatever has been done cannot be undone, but now at any point when we awaken to this realization, we start cultivating a healthy relationship with our inner child, dissolving past hurts, and releasing the negative self-shaming beliefs or thinking patterns which we have inherited from previous generations. Formulating a positive dialogue with your self, our inner child needs to hear these two statements:


I love you

See yourself in the mirror and say "I love you". We all need to hear this! After we grow up, we stop being loving to ourselves…We often over-pressurize ourselves to achieve an external goal,  forgetting that our inner child seeks the love, the cuddles, which it was showered with when it was a child…

I deserve love, I deserve pamper! Show your inner child love and tenderness. 


I am sorry

We often seek an apology from others for harsh behavior or for hurting our sentiments. But, have we ever apologized to ourselves? It is a dilemma… isn’t it? Our inner child deserves an apology for all self-sabotaging behaviors and actions which we have done to our own self! Pushing ourselves too hard, self-shaming, etc.

Healing begins when we acknowledge the pain given by ourselves to our own self.

Stay tuned for the upcoming article on more techniques and tools!



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