In this article, we shall understand and reflect on the possible ways to break the pattern of people pleasing. In our last post , we learned about the causes of this tendency. People pleasing is a form of self-abandonment, whereby we lose our identity in order to win the approval of others or to make them happy. We must comprehend the distinction between pleasing people and being kind. Kindness is a virtue that denotes strength, but people pleasing is a weakness that arises from fear, anxiety, and low-esteem. There is a significant difference between a nice guy and an authentic and kind individual. Thus, there is a dire need to delve deep into the root cause of this trait. Let’s examine some approaches to decondition ourselves from this pattern. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt • Developing high self-esteem: We need to develop a high level of self- esteem and self-confidence. We need to realize our self -worth and have a clear awareness