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For Perfectionists

Let us pause for a moment and reflect on our tendencies towards perfectionism. Most of us carry traits of perfectionism. We often pressurize ourselves with stratospheric standards and in an attempt to be correct always. Of course in working environments, especially if our work involves dealing with numbers, we do need precision and diligence.

Being in the shoes of perfectionist all the time could be too much leading to build of chronic stress, anxiety and even depression when our standards are not confirmed to. Take a moment of pause and:

• Breathe slowly and deeply. Observe the movement of your breath.

• Let go of the need to judge the movement of your mind. Be gentle with your mind and bring back the focus on your breath.

• Bring your hand on your heart and feel you are doing good enough.

• It is acceptable to err.

• Allow yourself to be a human with mistakes.

• We shall improvise ourselves with patience. Rome was not built in a day! To gain mastery over something requires a long journey to be traveled.

• Hug yourself, give a pat on your back for having come so far. 

A small note of love and tenderness to all our reader friends who are struggling as perfectionists. Take a moment of pause and reflect!


Allow yourself to be a human with mistakes.


Read the previous articles on this blog:

Embracing the transitions in life with faith
Boundaries: An act of self-love, Part 2
Boundaries, an act of self-love

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